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Welcome to our space.

You will not be able to post topics or reply on any topics except this one until staff have approved you.

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If you have questions or have difficulty understanding the rules, please let us know.

STEP 2
: Agree to the rules.
If you agree to follow the rules, make a post in this thread saying so. If not, please delete your account.

STEP 3: Browse the forum.
It may take a while for us to approve you. Until then, you can read (most of) the forums, but not post in them.

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RULES:
In progress (see below).

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I'll start on a draft for some rules.

1. Don't be a jerk and don't be disrespectful. No racism, classism, sexism, antisemitism, ableism, acephobia, homophobia, transphobia, fatphobia, otherkin hate, kink shaming, or any other type of harmful "phobia" or -ism.

2. Content warnings are required for potentially triggering posts. Eventually we will have more customized CW lists, but for now please CW for: racism, sexism, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, acephobia, misogyny, r*pe, sexual assault, child sexual abuse, eating disorders, ableism, fatphobia, death, abuse, violence, and any use of slurs. Feel free to ask for more!

3. Do not talk over marginalized people about how they experience the world. "Not all men" type comments will not be received well. TERFs and SWERFs are not welcome here.

4. Don't assume gender. Please use the pronouns listed under each member's name, or use they/them as a default if you don't see any pronouns.

5. If asked to stay in your lane or told that the topic is out of your area, please listen and stop commenting. This is very important - if you are not part of a group, do not speak over members of that group. If you don't understand something fully, do not be invalidating or disrespectful.

6. Remember that we are here for learning, support, and discussion, and do your best to be respectful. If someone says something problematic because they genuinely didnít know better, you can either tag a mod so that we can educate them, or do so yourself if you feel up to it. Not everybody is informed about every single topic, and some people have trouble understanding concepts due to learning disabilities. If someone is being mean or otherwise harmful, you are welcome to tag a mod so that we can jump in and handle it.

7. No tone policing or microaggressions. If asked to pause and think about what you've said (self crit) because you upset someone, please actually do so before responding. Tone policing is a form of derailing. Microaggressions are a form of racism.

8. If somebody makes their post a "safe post," it means that ONLY that group of people is invited to comment.

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Manda wrote:

8. If somebody makes their post a "safe post," it means that ONLY that group of people is invited to comment.


Should we differentiate between safe posts (by and for a group) and emotional labor requests (questions to a group from someone not in the group)?

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Xer.Rowan wrote:

Should we differentiate between safe posts (by and for a group) and emotional labor requests (questions to a group from someone not in the group)?

Yes definitely. For my group I have a rule about using a CW for emotional labor but it didn't translate super well to a forum. We could just add to rule #8?

8. If somebody makes their post a "safe post," it means that ONLY that group of people is invited to comment. A person who is not a member of the group they're asking about can NOT make a safe post for that topic. This is because that translates to a demand for emotional labor from that oppressed group. You may ask questions, but please make it clear that you are asking for emotional labor & refrain from demanding such labor from others.

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As a graphic designer, my thought is to explain it with typesetting.

SAFE POST for X
--the topic was posted by someone who is X
--only people who are X can comment

EL REQUEST for X
--the topic was not posted by someone who is X
--conversation must be centered around the voices of X people

...then further explanation after the concept has been presented.

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Is there a way in mybb to have people confirm that they've read the rules? As in, when a person registers, they have to read the rules. Is there a way to have a "I have read & and agree to the rules" or something, this then adds that person to a queue of to be approved members.

Obviously this will have to be thought out properly if things take off, so not to be too much of a bottle neck.

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sandra wrote:

Is there a way in mybb to have people confirm that they've read the rules? As in, when a person registers, they have to read the rules. Is there a way to have a "I have read & and agree to the rules" or something, this then adds that person to a queue of to be approved members.

Obviously this will have to be thought out properly if things take off, so not to be too much of a bottle neck.


I've done what I can to set it up that way.

When someone joins the server, they are added to the New Users group. New users can only post in this thread. Once they post here saying they accept the rules, we can manually change them to the User group, which can post in most places.

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Xer.Rowan wrote:

I've done what I can to set it up that way.

When someone joins the server, they are added to the New Users group. New users can only post in this thread. Once they post here saying they accept the rules, we can manually change them to the User group, which can post in most places.

Ah right, yeah. Cool, cool :)

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Had an idea for a... not rule, but request/suggestion. Something along the lines of:

In order to maintain this space as an active community, please login regularly. We encourage you to reply to a topic that interests you at least once a week, whether it's an ongoing conversation or a "post a link that educated you on this subject" thread.

Being active in the building and evolution of our community is what will make it grow and thrive. We recognize not everyone will be able to do this, nor do we expect our ideals to always be compatible with what life throws at us. But if you can, please try.

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Xer.Rowan wrote:

I've done what I can to set it up that way.

When someone joins the server, they are added to the New Users group. New users can only post in this thread. Once they post here saying they accept the rules, we can manually change them to the User group, which can post in most places.

Which reminds me of something, this is kinda abstract but I was considering this. So when I say leftist lounge, I don't really know what I mean, but I was thinking everyone left of centrists with the hopes of radicalizing some liberals. Idk, but it would be super cool if we could set permissions for people who accept the rules from just this thread to like, a starter zone? And then only based on their posts could they be granted access to the actual /leftist/ zone. Obviously if this gets big that will become difficult, but I just wanted to throw it out there. Let me know it that's a bad idea haha. Alternatively we could only accept far leftists but I feel like our user base wouldn't be very big?


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